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Brain Babble

Posted March 22, 2012, by Julia Kloeckner

Once upon a school assignment dreary!

When Salinger passed away in early 2010, a peculiar guilt filled my head for never having read this famous novel. I felt an enormous hunger to free that guilt. A friend lent me her dusty volume and I began consuming the pages.  ryeII

Halfway through the book, I was challenged with a sense of anger. Stems from the main character, Holden Caulfield, being a downer with repetitive thought. He also believes most people are “phony.” My dreary thought, I hope this paperback gets better.

Why do I feel a sensation of annoyance, maybe it’s the realization that I can and do relate to Holden’s insane behavior of repetitive thinking. Found myself shaking the book and saying aloud to Holden, “snap out of it. How will you ever make something of yourself?” I came to realize that Holden is not a confused young man; he’s processing his life’s journey, as am I. At times, one has to rethink, process and ponder over significant decisions.

Repetitive thinking is not a bad attribute if you take that same thought and add, bend, delete or grow the subject thought. Successes throughout one’s life come from diligent consideration to other options with an open mind. The path to your own success is to stay engaged, be productive and give to others.

On average, we have as many as 60,000 conscious thoughts per day. Often mindless chatter, but once you recognize a repetitive thought, only then can you begin to change it, or learn to stop it before completion or dismiss it altogether.

Reading tools to aid brain babble:

  • HBR’s 10 Must Reads, On Managing Yourself.
  • Whose Thought Is It Anyway?
  • Law of Attraction, by Gary Evans
  • The Tao of Music, by John M. Ortiz, page 330 one sound idea; begin with stopping one thought at a time! See the four thought-stopping techniques.

As I age, my thought-count per day is noticeably down, I’m sure of it. However, my thoughts are sweeter and gentler. I roll with positive thinking which means I’m staying away from Salinger.

“Only one thing registers on the subconscious mind: repetitive application – practice. What you practice is what you manifest.” - Fay Weldon.

Left Handed in a Right-Handed World

Posted December 22, 2011, by Julia Kloeckner

Ms. P was a fifth grade teacher who had light purple hair and carried a wooden ruler. “Whack!” Suddenly the knuckles on my left hand stung as red welt marks branded me. She was determined to convert her southpaw student to right-handedness. I was to conform or else! how-to-do-left-handed.

Ms. P’s lacquered ruler smacks had a profound effect on me.

This educator was teaching me that I wouldn’t be socially accepted, guaranteed not to excel and I wasn’t in my right mind – to know any better. I did know better. My young, intuitive self knew that if I changed my writing hand for her I’d turn out to be a dissimilar thinker. Her ferocious physical method of conversion never made me cave. No big, fat, green pencil would find its way between my fingers – in my other hand.

Ms P. would roll over in her grave to know that today I possess the skills of being mixed handed. With all the standard clichés about left vs. right and who’s in their right mind, how about the acceptance of others just as they are.

Why was I supposed to change such a significant part of me? I didn’t want her to change her purple hair. The swift smacks kept on and I kept on with my lefty edge. So with my left hand in a hook position and the paper sporting a mean right tilt, my fancy cursive handwriting became special and superior – the best in the class! My cursive writing is beautiful, to plainly print – not so much. Cursive writing feels more natural in that various senses awaken. The phenomenon of explosive imagination, vibrant colors and a stillness of white noise happens in my head. My mind’s eye comes forth in high gear as I take pen to paper; and more so when I tilt my head to the right (a true dreamer tilts her head).

From fifth grade on, I’ve callused my hands to a world set to accommodate right hands. Every day items all around you can be slapped onto the righty list: office equipment, home appliances, note pads (this one drives me crazy!) and most things in between. Thus, I’ve resolved to problem solve the right way for me. No matter who or what may drive you to change your ways, establish your own boundaries in creative thinking and in ways to navigate your future.

To this end, I am graciously left to write….

“Let others lead small lives, but not you. Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you.” Jim Rohn

Mirror, Mirror …

Posted February 16, 2011, by Julia Kloeckner

On the wall, just inside M3’s front door, hangs an old and grand, full-length mirror in which daily magical moments unfold. Day after day, I witness the most spectacular engagement between humans and the supernatural. Stealthily, yet openly, people engage with our story board mirror. As if I were invisible, staff, guests and clients become mesmerize with themselves once that mirror has grabbed their attention. The mirror ritual begins unbeknownst to the gazer. Body language comes alive; it’s like my own private peep show.

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As M3’s Team Concierge, you would naturally think I’d be the first face to meet and greet – not so! That mirror, that huge mirror chants first. Rigorous glances, instant back bone, ego on display, I see it all my friends. Live and in full action, I observe human behavior as one stands in front of a mirror. Exposed to seconds in time, my clear shot of bodies twirling in front of me take on a life force of genuine identity. I get to watch how people check themselves out! What a job!

The mirror’s pull has a sudden and instant hold – folks stand up taller, shift their cloths, suck in their guts, smiles get wider, they brush away the hair on their faces and each person reveals to me their own distinctive hereditary gestures that most people don’t know they even have or do – individuals have the oddest quirks and twitches.

I find it fascinating that people “check themselves out” right in front of me, because I cannot use a mirror while others are around, not even in a public restroom. I was raised that mirror-gazing is a private matter – odd and I’ll never shake it. All my psychology classes never presented personalities come to life. How people primp and perceive themselves is truly unique. I am affected by this openness to check it all out in the presences of others.

Why am I telling you about M3’s mirror, mirror? To bring a moment of clarity and reflection.

Wikipedia states that reflection is the change in direction of a wavefront at an interface between two different media so that the wavefront returns into the medium from which it originated.

For decades, I’ve spent my professional wavefront/career in the realm of customer service, which for me equates to being attuned to my keen ability to read body language, study first impressions and knowing you are a reflection of the company you work for. This is not something that that mirror can show you. Bring to others what you know of yourself and mirror who you truly are inside.